“A year from now you will have wished you started today.” One of the pieces of advice that got me to finally follow my heart and officially open Twine & Toil for business. It’s my Anniversary (in my Tony Toni Tone voice)! I’ve learned a lot over this past year, some of it expected and others that kind of snuck up on me, but all a part of helping me grow and stretch myself (literally, but I’ll get to that in a minute), in life and in my work. So I wanted to acknowledge the lessons as well as celebrate that I made it through my first year in business without as many tears as I thought (Yayyyy me!).
- Why didn’t anybody tell me about the 1st year weight gain? Come on you guys…why did you hold out on me. 5 years ago I lost 45 lbs and managed to keep it off with a little maintenance here and there. This past year I gained 20(!!) pounds. I could not believe it and kept wondering how I managed to completely ignore my exercise regimen and portion sizes. Well apparently, after doing some research, I discovered that gaining weight during your first year in business is a thing. A thing I should have been looking out for. Well you live and you learn and now I’m in the process of reversing the gain and I’m already down 7 pounds!
- Acknowledging and overcoming negative talk about myself and my abilities: It’s hard to say this but I admit that over the past year I realized that I could be pretty damn mean to myself. In my head and out loud. About my worth, about my skills, about what I do and don’t deserve. About how hard or not I’m working. I said some really low things about me, that if I ever heard my friends talking like that about themselves, I would have to give them a reality check (or slap). I’ve always been a confident person, but having a business solely dependent on you for its failure or success is a lot of pressure and I had to learn to be my friend again. Each time I’m getting ready to participate in a little negative self talk I ask myself, “Would you say this to your best friend?” If not, then why do it to myself. I’m a good person that doesn’t deserve that even if I make mistakes or don’t meet the goals I want to meet.
- Celebrating the wins and realizing I have a lot to learn: Celebrating your wins throughout the year is beyond important. It’s what will remind you why you’re doing this in the first place, especially when things aren’t going the way you want them to. I can’t control everything, but I can take those moments to be present and enjoy the process. I have a lot to learn and if I focus on how much I don’t know I’m setting myself up for burnout and a very short career.
I’ve had to go back to the drawing board many times this past year. Evaluating and reevaluating the way I do things in my personal and professional life to try to find some happy medium. I don’t have it all figured out yet but I’m dedicated to the journey.
Did you experience any of these things during your first year in business? What obstacles did you have to overcome when you were just starting out?